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Will My Husband or Wife Cheat?

Ah, yes… the age-old debate: will your husband or wife cheat on you? If you listen to the media, it is a given that your spouse grab some secret action if one or more of the following things happen:

• Your spouse has to work late with an attractive co-worker several times a week.
• You gain weight while your spouse just keeps getting hotter.
• An ex-partner contacts your spouse and asks to meet up.
• Children enter the equation, reducing your sex life to holidays and long weekends.
• Your spouse gets drunk and hooks up with your best friend because he or she has been secretly wanting that person for years.

The whole cheating thing is not so far-fetched. After all, a recent story in The Week contended that men and women are not biologically created to be monogamous. According to Truth About Deception, thirty to sixty percent of all married individuals will “engage in infidelity at some point in their marriage.”

So how do you know if your husband or wife has a bit on the side? Get ready for the world’s most obvious answer…

ASK.

That’s right. Have a conversation. Sit down and actually look at one another. As you’re talking, make sure to pull out a copy of US Weekly or Star magazine. Of course, this advice only applies to couples like Bill/Hillary Clinton and Tiger Woods/Elin Nordegren. For everyone else, Truth About Deception offers other signs:

• Your spouse suddenly needs more space. (Note: this does not mean that when your wife asks for her own home office, she’s really looking for a new spot to bang the postman.)
• Your spouse seems bored with you, family, work, or home life. (Note: if other people also fall asleep while you are talking, you might be the problem, not infidelity.)
• Your spouse doesn’t care about having sex. (Note: Well, at least not with you.)
• Your spouse keeps his or her cell phone hidden. (Note: this doesn’t give you the license to start policing his text messages, phone calls, and iPhone app collection.)

Now, before you go all Nancy Drew and start looking for evidence that might not even exist, ask yourself if you really and truly believe there’s spousal shadiness going on. You may just be feeling insecure about yourself and passing that discomfort on to your better half. Remember the famous words of the doctor of love himself, Ice Cube, “check yourself before you wreck yourself.”