That’s My Husband?
At a bachelorette party last weekend, the bride-to-be proclaimed, “I already feel married.” To that, I had only one question, “what does it feel like?” She looked at me like I was nuts, but hey… it’s not the first time.
Yep… one month in and I have yet to feel married. People keep referencing my “husband,” which always leaves me scratching my head and wondering who in the hell they are talking about.
The question remains… when will it feel like marriage? While fighting about money? Deciding to have children? Buying a house? Filling out beneficiary forms?
For Chris, the answer came last night. I had been feeling especially domestic, so I cleaned the house, popped dinner in the oven, and chilled some champagne. As he sat on the couch and admired my handiwork, he commented happily, “my wife.” While I appreciate his admiration, I have to wonder, would he have felt married if I had been sitting on the couch swigging a beer instead of dusting the windowsill? And in return, does he need to live up to husband stereotypes in order for me to feel like we’re hitched? Will I finally feel bethrothed when he shows up at home with his Christmas bonus, eager to put a down payment on the family pool?
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Love the Christmas Vacation reference! I can’t tell you when you’ll feel married. I think there’s not one single moment that does it for you. But looking back on the sum of your experiences together post wedding, you just know. That is the extent of my sappiness for the day…I’m spent!
I can’t put my finger on a moment when I felt married. Maybe I felt this way before we were married, but even when you are at each other throats it never crosses your mind that you don’t want to be with this person. Rika and I are thinking about celebrating our 10th anniversary next year with some sort of blow out. We’ll let you know what we plan because you two will have to come.
I don’t remember the specific instance I felt married, but I do remember it came about when I was purchasing something and I stopped and realized I wanted(not to be confused with needed) my wife’s opinion on the purchase.
This definitely resonates with me. I didn’t feel married the first several months either. And it also felt weird that when we were in public, I wasn’t just representing myself anymore. That was really weird and somewhat uncomfortable. It’ll be interesting to hear (or read) when you do feel like you are married. Looking forward to it.