Balancing Act
Once upon a time, like a month ago, we spent two days in Louisville, Kentucky. We frolicked with Dave and Fox and their kids, and wrote clever posts about ducks and brunch. But we didn’t really tell you anything about them or their relationship advice. In short, our reporting was imbalanced.
Ha ha, what a coincidence, since that was their main piece of advice for us. Our whirlwind tour of Lewuhvill (as properly pronounced, “like you have a mouth full of marbles”) began with brunch, then segued into a tour of ducks, waterfront parks, and the Louisville Slugger and Churchill Downs museums. After that warmup, Dave and Fox took us to the 21C Hotel downtown for a drink and a tour of the coolest art museum south of the Ohio River.
Dinner was at a fine Mexican restaurant, whose name escapes me, with dessert at a local pie and ice cream shoppe where we fell in love with derby pie. It was something like chocolate, caramel, and calories combined. Dave and Fox, we are blaming you for both pounds we gained on the trip.
Somewhere in between mouthfuls, Dave and Fox shared their marriage advice for us: balance. Meaning…
- one person cannot do it all, you need to share responsibility
- focus and passion needs to be tempered with patience and perspective
- day to day accomplishments must be weighed against long-range goals
It’s hard to argue with these points, but we’re doing so anyway, given how independent Jaime and me both are. But I think we’ll have many years to fine tune our approach. Until then, we’ll remain a little imbalanced.
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Ummmm, how exactly are you disagreeing with the points that they make about balance in a marriage? Other than being independent, of course.
Agree with their perspective - like any of the truly great things in life, it seems to me that a marriage is something that you have to nurture and work at.
And that makes me wonder…do people sometimes get cold feet about marriage because it’s the first time they’re making a decision that will affect the rest of their lives and therefore forces them to face up to their mortality?
Back to balance - I once saw some German movie about an ex-pat couple living in Africa during the early 40’s (don’t worry, they were conveniently anti-Nazi), and I think the father of the groom said something along the lines of “In every couple, you always see that one person has more love than the other”. Personally, I think that’s shite and a great recipe to one person taking advantage of their partner. I feel like balance is as important as love in a marriage (i.e. it’s completely vital) and would be curious to hear a counter-point.